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It's a Girl Thing - Diary of a Necromancer
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It's a Girl Thing
I've done some spring cleaning on the flist of late, weeding out deleted LJs and dead comms, and decided while I was about it to trim some journals that don't seem to be active as such anymore in whatever capacity originally led me to follow them. And now I have this horrible feeling of waiting for the other shoe to drop, as if the people I've cut will come roaring in and... what? I'm not entirely sure; yell at me, maybe, demand that it's not my place to say who deserves my attention. Which is exceedingly weird, yeah. And looks a hell of a lot like my childhood, only being noticed when I was inconveniencing someone who wanted an obedient audience. Big fat brainweasel here, apparently. I'm pretty sure that at least one of the bows it's wearing is pink, because it's visibly some relation to "little girls only exist to be of service to everyone but themselves", but a couple more are plaid, like "why do you have to inflict your ADHD on me like this?" and "oh did we pull away the football as you ran again?". It's quite festive, for a Brainweasel.

And no, dressing my Issues in metaphorical party-clothes doesn't make me want to punch the school system any less.

(Also, feeling like because this is what's going on with me and this is what I need isn't a valid reason for me to do anything? Is tiring. Very, very tiring. And I wish I could catch that Brainweasel to put it out of its misery...)


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alicebentley From: alicebentley Date: March 12th, 2011 07:50 pm (UTC) (permalink this entry)
It is indeed a "girl thing", difficult as that concept is for some of my male-and-want-to-understand friends. Ob xkcd was somewhat of a help for that particular disconnect, but can only go so far.

I think that having LJ (or FB) calling them "friends" as opposed to "your reading list" or whatever is a part of my emotional twinge. I have a harder time making myself post a comment on a thread of a person I know of rather than am actual f2f friends with.

(And now I'm encouraged to post more often myself - a good thing.)
robling_t From: robling_t Date: March 12th, 2011 08:07 pm (UTC) (permalink this entry)
I'm not sure it's even the word "friends" here just so much as the "for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup" feeling of, once having come to someone's attention (say, connected to them in a way they're notified of), I am not afterwards "permitted" to withdraw from that interaction of my own accord without repercussions; sort of the, "I'll say when we're done here, Young Lady" sort of thing, maybe? Which I think might only be gendered in the respect that girls aren't countersocialized to say "up yours" to that the way boys are when they have run-ins with arbitrary authority...
aldersprig From: aldersprig Date: March 13th, 2011 01:47 am (UTC) (permalink this entry)
Oh, man, yes, I unfollowed someone on Twitter Thursday and was beset with Major Drama.

I have the same brainweasel; I have a friend who will give me permission to unfriend other people, because I can't seem to do it on my own.
robling_t From: robling_t Date: March 14th, 2011 07:55 am (UTC) (permalink this entry)
It shut one of the Weasels up a little bit just to have posted this, as if at least I've presented a reasonable argument should the subjects of the cut come around wondering about it, and started a different one yammering that that thought was also Weird, because "normal people" shouldn't have to justify every damn move they make like that... {sigh}
aldersprig From: aldersprig Date: March 14th, 2011 12:46 pm (UTC) (permalink this entry)
Normal people might not have to justify every move they make, but in terms of LJ drama, it's (Sadly) rather reasonable to expect trouble.

tintop_lizzy From: tintop_lizzy Date: March 12th, 2011 08:04 pm (UTC) (permalink this entry)
Think of it this way. If you put new clothes without taking off the clothes you already have on, you'd be stuck instuff aged for a two year old and look like a globe, have eighteen pairs of gloves on and seventeen hats.

you'd likely be OK if you completely forgot about this issue... *hugs you*
robling_t From: robling_t Date: March 12th, 2011 08:10 pm (UTC) (permalink this entry)
Oh, that I managed to trim the flist at all is progress, I've been dithering about it for literally years -- up until recently I'd only let go of one LJ I'd friended-for-whatever-reason, and that was For Cause over politics... I think metaphorically I may have managed to get one mitten off, psychologically...
51stcenturyfox From: 51stcenturyfox Date: March 12th, 2011 09:55 pm (UTC) (permalink this entry)
I think LJ made a mistake by calling the people we follow "friends". It is kind of irrationally disturbing to be *unfriended*.

That said, when it happens to me, I unfriend back immediately because I'm so affronted. :D
robling_t From: robling_t Date: March 14th, 2011 07:59 am (UTC) (permalink this entry)
I always wonder if I've bored them. Which is obviously a writer's worst nightmare, y'see... :)
51stcenturyfox From: 51stcenturyfox Date: March 14th, 2011 03:11 pm (UTC) (permalink this entry)
Well, I figure I'm not going to read them if they don't read me. *whiny* :D

You're not boring!
espio From: espio Date: March 18th, 2011 05:13 pm (UTC) (permalink this entry)
Don't worry I totally understand why the weeding happened. No roars or other shoes here. :)

If anything, thanks for reminding me I've been meaning to close my journal for a bit now.
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